It can be frustrating dealing with a partner's jealousy. One partner may experience jealousy with greater intensity than their partner(s). Your partner may be happy to be involved with other people themselves, but experience intense jealousy over your involvement with other people. This double standard can seem unfair.

* Recognise that jealousy is a genuine, painful, intense emotion, even a cluster of painful emotions such as fear of abandonment, envy, possessiveness, worthlessness and so on.

* Be careful, loving and sensitive when communicating difficult information. Start by deeply affirming what you love about your partner. (Don't do it as a formula or every time you compliment them they'll tense up expecting a bombshell.) Let them know that you know this won't be easy for them to hear. Use good listening and feedback techniques to help them express and sort out how they feel. Affirm that you're not going to leave them. A good maxim is: if you want to say something that you know will be difficult or negative, sandwich it between two affirmations of your partner.

* A good tip: if you are seeing someone new, and spending a lot of time with them, also make the effort to spend extra time with your jealous partner(s), doing special things for them. Time-consuming? You bet, but so are jealous arguments till 4am.

* Express how you feel, especially if you feel unbearably hedged in by your partner's jealousy. It can be a fine line between acknowledging their jealousy and being controlled by it.