There is a known issue with Joomla! (the web site portal software) and multiple domain names - 'specially when you start "tacking on" extras such as chat rooms and forums etc.
The issue normally arises when someone enters the site via http://polyoz.org or http://www.polyoz.org - login to the site is achieved fine by some recent code changes but the issue arises when going to chat rooms or the forums that require the users login details to be passed to the relevant database for either the forum or chat room as these "add on's" only allow one domain name to be specified as the web address.
As these have been in place since the site's inception, they are "hard coded" as http://polyoz.dhs.org - so the actual correct address for the chat rooms would be http://polyoz.dhs.org/chat and the forums http://polyoz.dhs.org/phpbb2 .
Although it is not an ideal situation - basically our hands are tied in the matter, until someone can rewrite the code for the forums and the chat to accept multiple domain names - so the safest bet at the moment for accessing all web site features is the enter the site via http://polyoz.dhs.org
Hope that comes across in plain English without having to go into more tech - geek speak
If after following the above advice you are still encountering issues accessing the site please contact the webmaster to have the issue investigated in more detail.
This site is a resource for polyamorous Australians, their friends, relatives and supporters, and anyone who is curious to find out more about polyamory.
Polyamory has been defined as the philosophy and practice of loving more than one person at a time with honesty and integrity. The term Polyamory was coined in the late 80's by a pagan Priestess, Morning Glory Zell, and defines a range of different lifestyle alternatives. In most cases, but not all, this involves some sexual or at least intensely intimate sensual behavior. - reference:- ejhs.org
Polyamorous people come from a wide variety of backgrounds. Some belong to an organised religion, and some don't. Some have children, and some don't. Some are currently looking for new relationships, and some aren't. We are of all ages, ethnicities, sexual orientations, occupations, and political persuasions.
The one and only thing that all polyamorous people have in common is this:-
We believe it is possible to have more than one romantic relationship at a time, ethically and constructively.
This is a place where everyone who shares that belief, or who is interested in finding out more about it, can find information, stories, resources, and mutual support.
Whilst this site is hosted by an incorporated association, it is not the domain of any particular group or organisation.
It belongs to you, the people who visit. - Make the most of it!
If you are aware of any other Australian poly website, email list, social group, or other resource which is not mentioned here, please email us the details, so we can update the site and continue to be a comprehensive reference point for Australian polyamory.
PolyOz - Polyamory Resources Australia Inc. is an Incorporated Association and a Non Profit Organization - Registered in Victoria, Australia
Polygamy and polyamory are often confused. Some people think of polygamy as technically a subset of polyamory - others disagree and say that the (very recent) term "polyamory" is different in spirit. Men and women pursuing either polygamy or the wider polyamory report both happy and difficult experiences. In any case, you may find the following comparative description of polyamory and polygamy helpful.
It is important to note that in no culture is polygamy (or polyamory) the majority practice. It is usually a tiny minority.
Polyamory
Polygamy
Polyamory can involve relationship between people of any gender (including transgender) and any sexual orientation. Sexual connections may or may not occur between any members of a Polyamorous grouping, as the group decides.
There seems to be no grouping in polyamory which is dominant - relationship groupings are like snowflakes, with no two alike.
The commonest polygamous grouping is the relationship between one straight man and two or more straight women. This is known as Polygyny. Although Polyandry (one woman with several men) does occur, it is rare. Most commonly in polygamy, sexual relationships are expressed only between the man and each woman individually.
Polyamory involves people of any or no religious/spitirual conviction, although it seems rare or non-existent amongst religious fundamentalists.
In the west, polygamy is mainly practiced by religious sects such as (a splinter group of) the Mormons. In the rest of the world, polygamy occurs most commonly in a variety of Muslim and other (mainly Asian) cultures.
Polyamory tends towards a feminist approach, in that most polyamorists regards men and women as being equal in all respects with regard to relationship rights and requirements.
Polygamy (in its commonest form of polygyny) tends towards a patriarchal approach, seeing the man as protector of the women. There are some Western polygamous relationships which report a qualified kind of feminism because each woman has the advantage of a shared, communal family work load.
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OPENING A CONVERSATION ABOUT MULTIPLE LOVERS, HONESTY AND RESPECT IS NO SIMPLE MATTER, SAYS REBECCA FITZGIBBON
- article originally published Hobart Mercury 23/2/2008 -
THE thought-provoking Big Love returns to Tasmanian television screens tonight, as SBS repeats the challenging drama about a Mormon polygamist family in Utah.
The series caused only a few ripples of disapproval when it aired last year, even though it coincided with a real-life news story of a Mormon "prophet" accused of incest and rape.
But Polygamy is only one form of Polyamory and the creators of Big Love aimed to show that Polyamorous relationships aren't just for fringe cults
The word "polyamory" comes from the Latin for "many loves". Also called "consensual non-Monogamy", polyamory is essentially a romantic relationship involving more than two people.
A defining factor of Poly relationships is that everyone involved knows about, and agrees to, everyone else's involvement.
Former Tasmanian Shane Jones is administrator of the Australian online network of poly communities, PolyOz (polyoz.dhs.org).
Now living in Victoria, he believes the important goal is encouraging understanding. "Big Love does actually portray well in that the women are there by their own choosing they join the relationship," he said. "The important thing is that it's made clear to people that no one is coerced into it.
"[Big Love] does portray them in quite an enjoyable and recognisable light; I think anyone can relate to that. Big Love's creators have done quite well."
Channel 9 declined a first option for screening Big Love. Then, after its success on SBS, Nine approached Shane, his two female partners and other PolyOz members with an interview request from 60 Minutes.
They declined the interview, as well as one with Woman's Day, which offered $3000 each for interviews. Potential sensationalism made them wary, despite their being willing to discuss the reality of polyamorous life.
"Acceptance is the biggest thing," Shane said. "The challenge that we're facing today is probably what the gay community was facing in the '70s . . . and educating the public that we're not a bunch of child molesters or preying at large, out to get people."
The PolyOz website hosts discussion of polyamorous issues including jealousy, managing multiple incomes and raising children in poly families, as well as facilitating contact between regional networks like PolyTas.
"We get a lot of people coming to the website thinking we're a swingers' website," he said. "Sex is good, but we're not all about that."
Shane and Michelle met on an internet dating site soon after she ended a 17-year Monogamous marriage. Discovering that their children were to attend the same school in regional Victoria,they decided they could offer each other moral and emotional support living together.
"The break-up of my marriage was because my husband had an affair and did it all behind my back," Michelle said.
Shane was Open with Michelle from the start about his relationship with another woman.
Helen and her daughter visit every couple of months, which Michelle says is like having family come to stay.
"When I met him . . . I had to do some soulsearching. I looked at the positives and negatives. It ended up being that his [having a] girlfriend wasn't as big a negative as I thought it would be," she said.
"For both Shane and me, it's more a case of us being honest with the fact that we all love in different ways and there are different types of love. It doesn't have to be your traditional monogamous relationship.
Article originally published at babble.com 'the magazine and community for a new generation of parents'
"Why do some kids have three parents?"
A group of our
friends were spending a weekend at a cabin in the mountains, and our
hosts' not-quite-three-year-old was starting to do the math. Over the
squalls of nap-resisting toddlers, her mom responded without missing a
beat: "Because they're lucky."
Living in a committed
multiple-adult household always takes some explaining. In a nutshell:
My wife and I were college girlfriends and had a commitment ceremony
more than ten years ago. Our husband joined our family in 2001, and we
had a three-way wedding in 2005. We own a house and car together and
are equal co-parents (or as equal as you can be when one person is
breastfeeding) to our one-and-a-half-year-old daughter.
It
used to be that the most common questions we got when we explained our
relationship involved jealousy (not a problem, but an understandable
question) or sleeping arrangements (why this is so often the first
thing people think of is beyond me).
But once I became
pregnant, things changed. No matter how traditional the person or how
new the idea was to them, we'd most often get a pause, a misty-eyed
look, and then, "That sounds like a good idea. I could have used an
extra parent."
I've definitely been known to describe our
current set-up as having my cake and eating it too: I work from home,
my husband works out-of-the-home, and my wife stays with my daughter.
We get to have two incomes, neither of which would support the family
on its own, and a stay-at-home parent. I get to do work I love and
continue to breastfeed, without even pumping.
Of course,
about the time last December when the flu was cycling through the house
and my daughter was on a nebulizer and holiday presents needed wrapping
and we were calling my mother-in-law to help us with overnight shifts
because she's comfortable sleeping upright in a chair like the baby
needed, we certainly all shook our heads and wondered how anyone does
this with only two parents.
I won't pretend a multi-adult family is without its
challenges. Trilateral decision making, whether about chores or dental
care, can take at least three times as long. There are more
individual pair bonds that need attending to. Around the holidays, the
calendar fills up even faster when there are three sets of grandparents
to visit. When I liberate myself from the computer, I have been
mistaken for the nanny of my own child by local shopkeepers. (Okay,
that's actually just funny.)
The issue normally arises when someone enters the site via http://polyoz.org or http://www.polyoz.org - login to the site is achieved fine by some recent code changes but the issue arises when going to chat rooms or the forums that require the users login details to be passed to the relevant database for either the forum or chat room as these "add on's" only allow one domain name to be specified as the web address.
Polygamy
